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Reading it made me feel sick too and it wasn't even directed at me. I'm sorry they were so harsh. I can only imagine they're going through something right now and decided to take it out on you because... yeah, that was a lot.
Please don't take it to heart, you really didn't deserve such a nasty comment. I hope you have a great day and the days to come only get better for you. 🧡
Thank you so much for your kind comment and backing me up. 🤍 I’m trying not to be too bothered by what they said and be as civil as possible, I genuinely appreciate the concern. I reported their comment and blocked them after my response for my own well being. It’s really really messed up that they said that when I had good intentions with what I had said and had meant it at face value wholeheartedly, and it was that mental health should be taken seriously and with care, and I guess that made me a horrible person to them. I don’t understand what set them off, but I hope they feel better 🤍
OP also admitted to being, like us, someone who struggles with mental health issues. Your commentary also felt harsh to me and honestly triggering, probably because you were triggered yourself. Knowing you are young makes sense now, so I will say this: Don't swing your sword when you don't know how vulnerable your target is, nor if you can handle what may come back towards you. If you feel triggered, take a moment to pause and think before you type. Retype things if they feel like something you wouldn't want someone to say to you when you don't have the information you are trying to convey.I won't assume to know your therapy history, but these are DBT skills. The person who responded angrily to you gave you the exact same energy you gave to the comment you responded to in the first place. Some people don't like to watch other people get dog piled so relentlessly. From your point of view, you were being righteous. From other people's point of view, you came off as sanctimonious. This is from other people in your community, people with mental health issues. If you don't want to get hurt in the comment section, don't take a swing.I highly suggest setting boundaries for yourself and reading up on DBT techniques and emotional regulation for your own benefit if seeing a therapist for it is something you can't currently do. I'm saying this with warmth, from experience, and from dealing with mental health and the internet in particular. I'm not trying to be harsh towards you, I'm just trying to help you understand what happened here. It seems OP was trying to express themselves, you felt triggered, and then the commentary triggered the third commentator. So lets all just give each other room to experience emotions and realize that everyone has a story and a life outside of this comment section which leads us to feel the way that we do. That's why I'm commenting at least lol. I hope all of us has a good week and that we can focus on what is important to us.
Oh, I agree with you that it should apply to everyone. And I don’t think you should have been called names, nor do I think that Apocalypsebeat should have been so harsh with the point they were trying to make (it makes me think they are probably young also)
But while you didn’t call OP names, you came at OP with some pretty serious implications that I can see being triggering to people who were raised or were immersed in certain environments. The way you initially raised your concern wasn’t kind and the way you spoke with them in your replies wasn’t conducive to actually getting your point across. I feel like if we are going to take it in good faith that the people in this comment section that have strong feelings about the game have mental health issues, we should be gentle with each other.
I understand where you are coming from with your autism. I don’t have autism but I do have CPTSD and tend to be blunt because of my upbringing. But when you type on the internet you are able to temper some of the rough edges by rereading your words and editing them.I don’t think being blunt is bad, nor do I think it’s bad to speak your mind (I’m here doing it, and I’m here giving my unsolicited advice as well) but I think in situations where people are not your enemy, or can be convinced to be your friend (in this case I mean “friend” as in “someone who understands and perhaps agrees with your opinion”) then maybe it’s not in your best interest to come in swinging at the very start, even if someone’s opinion makes you mad.
Saying things like “Shame on you” (this phrase specifically) is especially triggering. If we’re in mental health spaces, talking to other people who have mental health problems, we should lead with kindness.
I’m not singling you out because I think you did anything especially bad, or because I dislike you. It’s because you seemed the most open to discussion and dialogue, as well as the fact that I used to communicate in a similar way to how you are.
I don’t think your intentions are wrong, I just think your delivery is hurting your message. And that’s why I think so many people’s feathers got ruffled.
I know my advice is unsolicited but this is a public forum and I think you know about feeling a necessity to voice your feelings to somebody regardless of their opinion on the matter lol
hope you and anyone else here have had some water today. I’m drinking some right now.