You're looking at this the wrong way. These aren't personal "requirements" or things "I" need to enjoy something. They're principles that exist because they've been stress tested for decades. People keep returning to them because they work.
And your spoon analogy doesn't hold. If the spoon is so misshapen that it doesn't hold soup or cuts the user, then yes, the form matters if the goal is actually delivering the experience. Art can do almost anything, but that doesn't mean every combination of techniques is equally effective at producing a specific effect. When a work aims for immersion and moral horror and then actively undercuts both, pointing that out isn't sad or limited thinking. It's just using the lessons of the past to enhance the future.