I was talking about the sex jokes you dingus
(Also what lock system are you talking about)
When you're in the game proper, you can open the menu and roll over to the options panel where there's a toggle to lock the Respect Value. This can let you get the full experience of both not losing your partner's respect when accidentally getting molly-whopped and choosing when to lose that respect if you're horny for some degradation/ntr.